[quote author=“SeculiTerminus”]I think that what he meant was that if you devote your life to the other person and your family, then the family will prosper. He was probably going for the Christ metaphor, IMO. In the sense of the necessity of making sacrifices in other areas to make good in another, I think it’s good advice - obviously, your kids need an active parent more than they need someone to work 12-hour shifts at work every day. (unless they’re like starving or something)
Well, I just objected to the way he phrased it. Devoting your life to your kids doesn’t mean sacrificing yourself in some Christ-like sense. Nobody can do that and remain mentally healthy ... OTOH there may have been more truth than he intended in that phrase: if he was a closet homosexual (or very bisexual), perhaps he was “giving up” his life for a heterosexual relationship.
But at any rate it doesn’t sound healthy to me, and indeed it has proven not to be.