You’re right, mid atlantic, the two extremes can be difficult to distinguish sometimes. My mother often said “the pendulum always swings center”. However, I often wonder when that will happen and what is center? For example, I don’t like the burka because to me it symbolizes oppression, low self-esteem, fear, etc, while on the other side of the coin, some women, esp those who embrace it, seem to think the opposite is true. What is center of those opinions? Does tolerance mean condoning the wearing of something I deem oppressive and alike or is center the act of Muslim women seeing how they are being oppressed, as well as fearful, and shedding the garb? OR is the center tolerating hijabs (which I can, because I can see their faces), but not burkas? If love and hate are “two sides of the same coin”, then is there a center? When does hatred of something become something good, in which to advance the human race? i.e. Hatred of slavery wasn’t a bad thing and in the end, when it was abolished in various countries, such as the U.S. and the U.K., advanced human rights. Those who embraced it and included it in States’ Rights, sought to advance their financial status through the oppression of others, which wasn’t good at all. Hatred in that case became a good thing and the love of it a bad thing. If we had become tolerant of slavery, people might still be enslaved today. Instead, the majority of people today, see slavery as a bad thing.
Of course, I don’t think using euphemisms help to figure out what is a “happy medium” in such issues that stir up powerful emotions. I also know that using the burka is a poor example, because it doesn’t deal with direct hatred/love of a human being, but rather a thing. It was the best example I could think of though, because I have great difficulty actually hating another being. It’s much easier for me to comprehend hate/love for a thing, than it is a being. For example, I like wolves, don’t wish to see them go extinct, but I don’t dream of having one as a pet, so I don’t think that’s a good example in this case, unless its an example of non-extremism of love/hate.