This morning I heard a pastor on a podcast say that if someone in a relationship refuses to admit that they could be wrong, then that relationship is essentially over. They may continue in some way, but it’s no longer truly a relationship. That’s not that simple of a statement, but it makes sense. Now, turn it around. It means if you are not listening to different points of view, if you aren’t trying to understand what others are saying, if you aren’t watching for their non-verbal cues of discomfort or frustration, if you are saying things like “that’s just what I believe” or “I don’t want to talk about it”, then you aren’t in relationship.
I’m not suggesting we should try to be in relationships with the whole world, but at least let’s start building something. Even if you vehemently disagree on something fundamental to your identity, there is most likely something you can find to agree on. We all need food, air and water, that’s a good place to start. Kittens, puppies, also good.