I have no idea what a CFI is.
I guess by implication inquiry would allow for open discussions. But the fact of the matter is that people who’ve had soft exits from religion have no concept of what it is to have a hard exit from one. And the soft-exit people sometimes actively seek to censor, corral, and control those who’ve had hard exits.
Where does CFI fit in this spectrum? A group more interested in “looking good” or in actual true inquiry where recoverers of conservative religion can honesty express their opinions and experiences?
For example, if a given person volunteers to be an assistant organizer for a CFI group, is the >very first thing< they’re asked to commit to that they conform to “message discipline,” as set by some sort of a central committee? And do such volunteers have to commit up front not to embroil the group via public debate & discussion on online BBSs?
In other words is it the not only implicit but explicit & a required demand that volunteers for CFI commit to put “the message” first, above considerations of whether a given volunteer feels a need to speak honesty about a given issue? Does CFI require their volunteers to “put CFI first,” even above personal considerations that may result from speaking how a person may feel inclined to speak as a recoverer from a conservative religion?
At this point I’m not sure whether CFI is a support group for recoverers from conservative religion or not. There is one key thing that can happen though: people who leave religions as priests and whatnot can seek to be as controlling when they were in their churhes. And also, people who’ve had soft exists often have little tolerance for those of us who had hard exists from religion and the frank way we speak when we assume (perhaps mistakenly) that we’re among friends.
So if you could enlighten me about what CFI is, please do so.